6 Message Templates for LinkedIn Connection Request Success

Right now, there are close to 9,000 connection requests sitting in my LinkedIn inbox. At one point, I had almost 30,000!

It’s so great to open my inbox and see so many people wanting to connect. There’s just one teeny problem…I don’t have any clue who any of them are or why they want to connect.

And now that I’ve hit my 30,000 connection limit, I need to know who each person is that I accept into my network.

The ones that I DO accept? They ALL have one thing in common…they included a message with their connection request giving context to who they are.

Adding a message MATTERS BIG TIME, but it’s hard to know how to phrase a message to a person, especially ones that you don’t know yet but would like to get to know. 🤷‍♀️

When I first started on LinkedIn, I struggled with this, and just like the requests sitting in my inbox, my requests went mostly ignored.

Over the past few years, I’ve learned how to ensure that my requests are accepted, mostly because I’ve discovered what makes ME accept certain requests.

And now, I’m sharing my secrets with you! Here are templates to improve your chances of having your LinkedIn connection requests accepted and build an awesome network!

But FIRST, let’s discuss what NOT to do when you request a connection on LinkedIn!

  1. DON’T send a request without a message attached.

  2. DON’T write multiple paragraphs about yourself or ramble on. Get 👏 straight 👏 to 👏 the 👏 point.

  3. DON’T pitch your product/service in your connection request.

  4. DON’T ask for favors, you haven’t earned that right!

  5. DON’T mention that you have “X amount of connections” (gross!) 🤢

  6. DON’T use the generic “I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.” It shows you don’t care enough to personalize it.

  7. DON’T try and automate this process, it’s tacky and people can usually tell. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ASK HOW I ENJOY WORKING AT “MICHAELA ALEXIS” 🤦‍♀️

  8. DON’T act like the person owes you anything. It’s a request, not a demand.

How to use the templates:

These templates are not meant to be simply copy and paste. Learn the structure from them, but take the time to be intentional and personalize each post.

General Template Formula:

Personalized greeting + how you know them + why you want to connect + polite/friendly sign off

Specific examples:

Somebody that you met at a conference or event

“Hi ______________, it was so great meeting you at the ____ (event name). Our conversation about _______ really got me thinking more about ______! I’d love to stay in touch and stay in the loop of what you’re up to.”

“Dear ________,

It was great speaking to you at ____________ in ____________(city of event) last month. It sounds like you’re up to all sorts of cool things! I’d love to connect and keep in touch.”

Chat soon, ____________”

“Hi __________!
It was great meeting you at the _____________(name of event) in (city) last week. I really enjoyed hearing about how you’re (give context to what you spoke about) – I’d like to follow your work and watch you progress!

A celebrity/influencer/leader in your industry

“Hi _________,
I’ve been following your content and I’m so impressed with all you’ve accomplished. I recently read/listened to interview/watched video of you, I’d love to discover more about your work and support you!


Somebody that went to the same school as you

“Hi ________!

I see that you graduated from my current university, _________(name of school). It’s so inspiring to see alumni making their mark! I’m a __________ major and would love to learn more about your work with ____________(person’s current employer).

Thanks so much, ________”

Reaching out to a Recruiter

“Hi __________,

I noticed that you are a recruiter in the _______ (name of city) area. I wanted to reach out o discuss potentially working together. I’m a ________________________(share your experience) and currently seeking new opportunities. I’d love to find out if I may be a fit for any of your current openings.

Hope to chat soon, _________”

“Hi _________,
I see that you work for __________(name of recruiting agency). I wanted to reach out because I’m currently exploring new opportunities. I’ve been working professionally in (name of industry) for (number of years), and I’m so ready for my next big challenge! If you have time, I’d love to talk about whether my background would make me a fit for any openings you have. Thanks!
Chat soon,

Somebody you’d like to work with

“Hi ___________,

I’ve noticed your presence here on LinkedIn, and I’m so impressed by your work! I’d love to see if we can work together on (give context to the project or position), would you be open to discussing via a quick phone call or over coffee?

Looking forward to possibly working with you!”

“Hi ____________,
I saw the work that you did for ___________, and I’m super impressed! My company is looking for help on ____________, and your skills might be a great fit. Let me know if you’re interested in working together, I can be reached here or at (email address).
Chat soon, and keep up the good work!”

Somebody whose content you found on LinkedIn

“Hi ____________,

I recently stumbled upon your (LinkedIn article/post/video) about (topic), and I was blown away. I couldn’t agree more about your take on (topic), and knew I needed to try and reach out. I’d love to connect and keep up-to-date with your inspiring content.

Sincerely, __________”

These are ALL templates that I’ve used at one point or another or would use, so I hope you found them helpful. May the LinkedIn odds be ever in your favor!

Michaela Alexis